Happy Mother’s Day, MJ

The first thought that comes to mind when I think of my mother are the innumerable fights we have had. We fight like crazy, the crazier the discussions the crazier the fights, at the end of which we agree to disagree on many things, and then cheers it out with coffee and her favourite merci bars.

To me fights bring out the essence of a relationship with a person. A good fight, and then to turn back immediately, sit and talk like always, without as little a hangover of what happened… those kinds of bonds are very rare.ย I can freely fight with her, be grumpy and ask for a cup of coffee and a hug, the next minute

MJ and I have differences in opinion on many matters, starting from characters in books, to politics, to lifestyle and behaviour & people. But there are equally or more similarities we share between us. But at the end of the day, she gives me the space to truly talk it out, if possible fight it out, to argue and discuss, and I can indulge in these ideas because I don’t have the fear of losing her or being judged by her… ย I remain her daughter and her best friend and she remains my mother and best friend, irrespective of whatever transpires between us..

I guess, that sums up my bond with my mother .. Happy Mother’s Day, MJ.

Of course, it is mother’s day today

I’ve always been very selfish about my mother (are you?). I want my morning cuppa of coffee from her or her call when I wake up first thing in the morning.. I want her full attention when I’m telling her about my day, the stories that come to mind anytime. I want her to respond with equal enthusiasm when I discuss and argue about every possible thought that crosses my way.. I get irritated when she feels lazy about things I feel strongly about she should be doing. I am a very stubbirn daughter you see ๐Ÿ˜› (in her I find my model…Though she will never agree.. Ask her and she’ll say I’m the only person she fights/argues/breaksup with ๐Ÿ˜› mothers & daughters ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜› but that’s the bond we share … Somebody I can wholeheartedly fight without an inkling of feeling judged! Oh yes, fighting is very important to me, if I can fight with somebody it is a indicator that I like that person – quirky Aquarian trait;))

But, I have been fortunate that I am born to a woman who has consciously kept aside time for these little things about her children in a day. Mothers are of different kinds mine turns out to be this way. After all the time I take from her, she still finds time to do all her personal work, her 9 hours of sleep, stays happy, rejuvinated and refreshed. That’s the lesson learnt .. ๐Ÿ™‚ if I plan to become one, I do have a big shoes to fill..

#Father’sDay

We always celebrated the Mother’s day, on the second Sunday of May, made cards, shhhhhhhhed around about the gifts… and delighted MJ during that Sunday with goodies…

But ย almost always forgot the father’s that comes by in June…. Almost always, DJ got to know about it first through some source, rings us up and says, “hey wish me, it’s Father’s day today, where’s my card :)” And that’s how it always went by…

… I don’t know why, why the forgetfulness regarding this one particular day … I can list a hundred million reasons here… but that day just goes by unnoticed many times….

So today, like all the years it would have as well, if not for FB and its many posts updates about Dads and Fathers… He was delighted, “oh! it is today, then I should have a special chocolate” he said

Wishing somebody on a birthday and remembering an important day in their lives is for that delight in their voice and smile on their face, it may make their day, make them feel extra special…

As they say in the film Shall We Dance, when we wish someone, we are also saying … “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

So Father’s Day it is…