Most of us are out of our comfort zones.

We are at work in different cities, on onsite abroad, at study tables in hostel rooms and libraries far away from our homes, parents, siblings and friends.

I never thought much about the whole business but for the fact that I always wanted the holidays to come rushing by so that I could board the next train and be with my people.

Yesterday or is it day before, I have no clue, I met somebody who had a concept which took me by surprise. If the concept of studying or working in our home towns meant that we are the most pampered and princes/princesses of our circle well I beg to differ.

I heard this great talk on self sacrifice on the part of the child, for parents of not going abroad, as they considered our adult specimen incapable of handling the pressures of the world without the shelter of parents!!! I find it absurd, maybe because I have grown up in an environment where every opportunity to study, self improvement is welcomed with such a joy that the prospect of going outside the state into a good university or a totally unknown, no- relatives place is a challenge rather like a trigger that has to be pulled back and let go forward with full force….well maybe people would have double thoughts if the work and study places were in Iraq though or some place of conflict.
Strange….

In fact my motherji is of the opinion that every offspring she came across including her much pampered daughter and son, nephews and nieces should stay in a hostel where we would learn life as it is, be more independent and learn to be more responsible and mature and ………….all the ands needed to live life under pressure, no tension happily anywhere on earth.
Well aren’t all of us pampered, there are different ways of showing affection, but feeding some 23 year old girl/boy….nope woman or man is a ridiculous practice to follow

…………….……………we are too priceless possessions of our parents……………………..

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Moments in Life
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.

Don’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.


Dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;be what you want to be,
because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

An English professor wrote the words:
“A woman without her man is nothing”
on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.
All of the males in the class wrote:
“A woman, without her man, is nothing.”
All the females in the class wrote:
“A woman: without her, man is nothing.”
Punctuation is powerful

” A Very Happy Woman’s Day” !!!!!


Hey it is woman’s day today!!

So why not start a Blog day or a Bloggers’ day out or did somebody beat me to that already!! Well yes the web blogger’s day according to the Google search is on the 15th of June ….when all of us can wear blogger tees or sweat shirts and walk around!!!

Let’s name each day of the year something so that every day is a celebration.

Oh u girls! Woman’s day it is. 1 day out of 365 days. The rest are man’s days …said a poster on woman’s day last year at the university signed by the chauvinist club among the students…the concerned women got infuriated and then one could imagine the series of dharnas, the walks and the other satyagraha or non cooperation activities that went on….

Well I am not particularly overjoyed or ecstatic that internationally the world is celebrating women only on one particular day of the year that is today…..As my mom replied this morning to my salutations for the day, if everybody respects each other then there is no need for a day like this at all. Some projects are started for the empowerment of the so called second sex on this day and then what a full stop to all those beautiful beginning and rest till the next 8th of March. Now what is the need to mark such a day in the first place…it is just like those reservations given for the developing nations and classes in the world generally speaking.

It is human nature in general to give concessions to the disadvantaged or the new comers in the beginning….but if the trend continues for all life for generations then I guess it only means two things, firstly that the outlook hasn’t changed, secondly that they are so weak in the brain that reservations have to be constantly made for them all the time.

Look at the women of today …..They have come up …..They have risen ….from the job profile of a home maker to the profile of all that their other half can do or was doing!! (now if anybody could call it emancipatory or liberation….well the way I see it I see it as additional burden to the woman…who has taken on additional responsibilities outside the house but the other half hasn’t particularly taken up the active job of house work along with the wife….there are a few exceptions though, mostly in the present generation….)

So what is the women’s day for? It is not like one’s birthday or something….to celebrate a year old in this world or something like that or is it? If celebrating achievements is the purpose then why not celebrate a Man’s day and why not celebrate all the achievements of men too …..Strange there isn’t such a day …..Come to think of it ……putting a name to all the days can ensure party and enjoyment every day ….

So with that I guess happy woman’s day to all the women around in the blog world….
check out this link got it in the mail today …..
http://www.google.com/url?sa=D&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.funonthenet.in%2Fcontent%2Fview%2F261%2F31%2F

happy women’s day …..

ladoo post!!!

Addictions are very bad ….
Addictions are flings….
Flings are temporary ….

Writing has never been a pain…
Blog sphere has been a wonderful place too….and it will be ….but at the moment …I feel exhausted …

I get bored of things easily if I’m doing it at steady pace even if it is something I love doing ……Just like my fascination for the ladoo ….
I loved ladoos …I would dimply love to nimble into one right now ..
My mom often tells me u should be really really thankful to whoever is controlling us from above for your Dad….he is simply incredible has never said no to anything I wanted or said and still I pester him a lot!!! ….but I do that with every one of my best friends…

I haven’t a faintest idea when I got this love for the ladoo a medium sized yellow ball made up lots of small balls…..well now that I was crazy about it ….it was my father who used to pay the price for his daughter’s fancy ….whenever he used to call home while on the way I used to give instruction about the size and shape of the ladoo I needed …the white one or the yellow one with no just powder or the one which is brown so on and so forth….

Well, I guess my uncle therefore thought it fit for presenting me ladoos for my 9th birthday. But those ladoos were huge…there were 9 in number..but all of them were huge….4 times the size of the normal ladoo ….and I started off as I couldn’t resist …and failed miserable to even eat through a little portion of my favorite sweet dish …

Well there ended my ladoo craze and come to think of it now and then I feel my uncle succeeded in relieving me of my ladoo eating habit ….

Ladoos were a craze …

But I hate to stop blogging because I am getting addicted to it ….

So maybe/may be not….unsure myself ….
my next post maybe tomorrow or a week after or a month later ….but I will never stop this hobby of mine which has become a part of my daily life like brushing my teeth in the morning or waking up from sleep as the night is over and the day has arrived!!

I hope I will get back to my blogsphere soo, hopefully this week …. 🙂

Cya all ….
Take care
Ash …

very nice read ………smile away


A little girl walked to and from school daily. Though the weather that morning was questionable and clouds were forming, she made her daily trek to the elementary school. As the afternoon progressed, the winds whipped up,along with thunder and lightning. The mother of the little girl felt concerned that her daughter would be frightened as she walked home from school and she herself feared that the electrical storm might harm her child. Following the roar of thunder, lightning, like a flaming word, would cut through the sky. Full of concern, the mother quickly ! got into her car and drove along the route to her child’s school. As she did so, she saw her little girl walking along, but at each flash of lightning, the child would stop, look up and smile. Another and another were to follow quickly and with each, the little girl would look at the streak of light and smile.

When the mother’s car drove up beside the child, she lowered the window and called to her, “What are you doing? Why do you keep stopping?” The child answered, “I am trying to look pretty, God keeps taking my picture ” n face the storms that come your way and don’t forget to SMILE! Now Smile…………………………………. Posted by Picasa

Pop ups ……..scattered!!!!


Sigmund Freud gave us the concept of the Id-Ego-Superego…the world realized the there was an ongoing struggle between conflicting thoughts in our very own minds, day in and day out.

Isaac Newton realized that apples never fell upwards or rather I should say fly upwards in the air like birds do….the world knew that gravitational force was the one thing that kept them from falling off the surface of the earth which spun at an enormous speed.

Now, to think rationally, these mind blowing concepts put forth by great men who walked this world, were always present in our minds….we never gave it a second thought to them. Maybe we never put a name to these thoughts we had or feelings we underwent…yes Shakespeare was not that correct when he made Romeo say “What’s in a name?”

So what does all this make the rest of us? – A bunch of heedless Homo sapiens incapable of the power of thought?
None of us would appreciate such an adjective being added before our proper names – willingly and forcefully, of course. We don’t like to be taught after a certain age and a certain time in our lives. We think we then have the power of some Knowledge, the power of full understanding the power of all those mind processes which we assume we should have …well makes us a kind of Megalomaniacs in a way. Remember the Hawk in Ted Hughes’ the Hawk roosting. How is growth possible then?

Growth means change right!!

On the personal front, we all have our own ways of handling things…fortunately most of the time and unfortunately at times we end up with the right spouse and friends…birds of the same feather folk together!! We could try out ideas that pop up in our weird brains at times…be it in interior designing or out door games or in the kitchen or else where….Aquarians are known for them!

On the professional front we keep learning and unlearning often a norm of the day….remember the Paycheck, which was an exaggeration in terms of the progress in technology. But we do have to unlearn and recollect a lot at the job corner.
There are reasons to what we do and why we do it?
We do it as it increases our stand in the organization or out of shear adventure.

All this apart there are times when we resist change…why is that we grow stubborn at times when what is told to us is absolutely the right thing to do at that point of time? Why a resistance if not for the fact that we are not incarcerated or our rights taken away and locked up in a drawer somewhere!

A change in the routine causes a lot of confusion for one thing, after a certain stage it is becomes difficult to adjust to another way of life all together, like Darwin’s theory of evolution caused havoc in the religious minds of the people of Europe. Why talk about Darwin when a delay or the early arrival of the cab in the morning could make one run helter-skelter or a late morning on a week day is equally wanted to be forgotten!!!

Certain pop ups that disturb my brain at times my mind is idle….

Why don’t all of us think …and put down stuff….
Why such a hoo-haa when what is proposed is something we experience day in and day out…
Why then does that change in thinking and ways cause a cyclone at times and takes time to settle in…but is finally accepted….
Then if is it so good and always done why resist….why is there always a bifurcation?

Maybe the bifurcation or trifurcation and the number of forcations in the thought of people is why we all our unique …..!!!!