When A’s mother died a while ago, I remember telling my HOD that she wasn’t a friend, so I wouldn’t know if she was married, had kids, or who her next to kin was if we needed to contact anybody in future.
Technically, she and I should have known about each other better as we share the same supervisor, work, and meet at least once a week. However, we don’t. We kept our relationship strictly professional.
while talking about her mother adapting to a village clime after being born and living in an urban space all her life, B said, she has a smart phone, a net connection. Who cares about where we live physically
Do we all have are loves glued to the phone and media these days?
I’m kind of uneasy with the relationships I maintain or am asked to maintain these days. Everything unreachable about somebody gets conveniently pushed into a box on the topmost shelf labelled private and boundaries. Of course, there is stuff that we shouldn’t ask people, true. But where do we have to draw the line, when does that become – not talking about the self, sharing at all?
Not that I know inside out about my friends and family’s life, but there is a transparency, an openness about in these relationships. Simply put, there aren’t any top national security level secrets, plus if something is amiss, we can all walk up to each other, pick up the phone, and ask what’s the trouble?
Do you feel what I feel?
Labelling something as private, and marking out my space, is indirectly shutting off people, we don’t want/like. Teenagers call it parental interferance, the older children come up with the excuse of generational gap, peers say, nobody can empathize, siblings may term it as bad vibes or wavelength troubles, spouses may also call it much the same .. see, how many different ways we are shutting out people, how many different phrases do we come up with to not open up, confront, talk and shut out people ..
To make matters worse these days we all have our phones, online friends and social media. We look to them for entertainment or/and consolation ..
I’m trying to figure out what’s the deal here – are we afraid to face people we interact with daily or is it easier to talk to a screen? Or is it something else totally.. all.of us would have gone thru one or two of these terms at some stage ..
Om a personal note, I feel relieved that I am off that app called WhatsApp. People who want to talk to me, or I want to talk to, call. We don’t send random good morning/good day greetings to each other, or random forwards to prove that we are alive or are trying to participate in a group activity. Or write long messages which we can’t talk in person ..!! I love this kind of personal..
otherwise in the age of instant messaging like C said, “my mother was worried and enquired if all was well when I called to wish her on her birthday” instead of the messaging on WhatsApp.