Something just came up a few days ago and the question of insecurity makes its rounds again. It is irritating when somebody is always insecure and it is irritating to be irritated (even for a few minutes) by that another’s insecurity! Why? is the first question that pops up in my head. People why are you insecure when you have achieved and caught every thing life threw at you…
why o why ..
You should realize then that no amount of money, fame, fortune and friends are relevant if you feel insecure. It is like this demon inside you, like the tape worm that resides in some of our tummies which eats away all our food that we eat to keep us healthy…
I don’t have any ready made solutions.. but feel secure, and there is nothing to feel insecure about! to feel secure, we need to begin to understand our own self. And when the self is secure, there are no doubts, there is only a confidence, and a determination to go forth.
It is when we do not know how to entertain ourselves that insecurities start to pop in, is what I think. Then there is a dependence on others for entertainment, to engage in a happiness.. and the dejection when they fall through!
It is when we don’t trust our decisions and instincts that they walk in again into our lives and colonize our sane minds. Why spoil our own sanity with insecurities.. so be yourself, find ways to make yourself happy without depending on another, without hurting the rest of the world.. and just live ya! this is just one life, enjoy yes, but ya the thumb rule I work with is, do not be nasty and try not to consciously hurt others.
PS: It may come naturally to me because I am an Aquarian by birth, I think.. 😀 😀 😀 (ya, let the sun sign also get some credit apart from the parents 🙂 ) we are gregarious folks, we love people around us and people love us 😀 😀 we can make them laugh and make them talk, make them feel comfortable, but at the same time.. We also need our own time, our own space where we can feel and just be with ourselves. What we all call me-time.. And when the me-time works well, then I don’t think anybody requires anybody around for bring in a secure feeling. I become my best friend, we have our discussions and arguments.. and we become refreshed to go back to our friends, and yap the yap! 😀