Feeling secure is an art..

Something just came up a few days ago and the question of insecurity makes its rounds again. It is irritating when somebody is always insecure and it is irritating to be irritated (even for a few minutes) by that another’s insecurity! Why? is the first question that pops up in my head. People why are you insecure when you have achieved and caught every thing life threw at you…

why o why ..

You should realize then that no amount of money, fame, fortune and friends are relevant if you feel insecure. It is like this demon inside you, like the tape worm that resides in some of our tummies which eats away all our food that we eat to keep us healthy…

I don’t have any ready made solutions.. but feel secure, and there is nothing to feel insecure about! to feel secure, we need to begin to understand our own self. And when the self is secure, there are no doubts, there is only a confidence, and a determination to go forth.

It is when we do not know how to entertain ourselves that insecurities start to pop in, is what I think. Then there is a dependence on others for entertainment, to engage in a happiness.. and the dejection when they fall through!

It is when we don’t trust our decisions and instincts that they walk in again into our lives and colonize our sane minds. Why spoil our own sanity with insecurities.. so be yourself, find ways to make yourself happy without depending on another, without hurting the rest of the world.. and just live ya! this is just one life, enjoy yes, but ya the thumb rule I work with is, do not be nasty and try not to consciously hurt others.

 

PS: It may come naturally to me because I am an Aquarian by birth, I think.. 😀 😀 😀 (ya, let the sun sign also get some credit apart from the parents 🙂 ) we are gregarious folks, we love people around us and people love us 😀 😀 we can make them laugh and make them talk, make them feel comfortable, but at the same time.. We also need our own time, our own space where we can feel and just be with ourselves. What we all call me-time.. And when the me-time works well, then I don’t think anybody requires anybody around for bring in a secure feeling. I become my best friend, we have our discussions and arguments.. and we become refreshed to go back to our friends, and yap the yap! 😀

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  1. Reblogged this on pins & ashes and commented:

    And as of this morning, at this hour, this post becomes relevant all over again!

    “Why? is the first question that pops up in my head. People why are you insecure when you have achieved and caught every thing life threw at you…

    why o why ..

    You should realize then that no amount of money, fame, fortune and friends are relevant if you feel insecure. It is like this demon inside you, like the tape worm that resides in some of our tummies which eats away all our food that we eat to keep us healthy…”

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    1. Yes, those are worrisome troubles.. Money is a big reason behind. But what about say, a relationship.. A friendship.. Why feel insecure about somebody’s love/loyalty/trust

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        1. The original post was I think written based on one such instance! if I remember right..! the bane!! The post of a result of my irritation caught up in that one mess one night!

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              1. Even though we feel insecure, we should have friends who should be confident enough to inspire us and make him forget insecure when with him that’s the possible way to cut down wholesale spread :). We are given one life and we should live for us at-least sometimes even though we does for family most times!

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                1. wholesale spread! 😀 😀 😀
                  True, a good set of friends or a single well meaning friend is always necessary, even when insecurity does not hit.. just to be have a company to go up to the terrace and do a screaming game 🙂 plus it is all a balance! me-you-family-friends-life-mine-yours-whose-happiness..

                  Well said ya Sakthi. 🙂

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                    1. Laughing out loud @retail 😀 I guess there lies the problem, they need to learn to scream and put all what is inside outside, because stifling everything inside does major injuries.

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                    2. Opposite of wholesale is retail! Maybe you should let me watch “Conjuring 2” to make them scream 🙂 Maybe bonding and smiling with right person will make them feel better in terms of heart and help them to move ahead confidently!

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                    3. I suggest Conjuring part 1.. the situation the family was in, the clapping to everything else was horror worthy and scream worthy.. 😀

                      The last part, I agree wholeheartedly!

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    1. You found it true, I did too.. Most of the people are so dependent on others, that they are at a loss when the other/s is/are not around! Like this oft quoted line “You are not making me happy” (makes no sense whatsoever to me)

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