(disclaimer!!!Well to tell you guys the truth, I seriously have very little or no idea about the above four words, some idea yes, but most of it remains to be explored. )
We as humans, always or most often judge others by different scales, depending on what we consider should be “the thing” in somebody. I admire those who can speak a language giving the notion that they know no other tongue. I like those men who button their shirts neatly, always…. Accordingly we mark our people and pass our opinions on them. These acts now that we are experienced lead to preconceived notions often even before seeing the person face to face. However, it is not always the buttoned up shirts or the spoken ones or the brashness of the behaviour that forms the impression.. there is something that is inexplicable.. that is not tangible that cannot be explained which moves my opinion for instance from the well buttoned shirt to say, well.. mmm.. the vibes are a slightly wrong.. 🙂
Well my side of things, I believe and trust a lot in my first impression and they almost and always turn out to be right for me. It need not be clothes or the way people speak.. I for one come across as very loud to many, and is ticked off on most lists.. so that is not the criteria.. at least for me.. Maybe I should be lucky that I can make a decision – judgement would be an adverse term here, however, should there be happiness about this fact that I can know people I interact with quite often and can be on my guard if I’m dealing with the “dangerous somebody”. But let me tell you, not all the judgments I made were right either. Yes am a human so hardly perfect!!!
Something inside me tells me that what I am attempting to do unknowingly is unfair to the other.
Me being judgmental about something or someone is not really a sin or as heinous an act, it is involuntary like our heartbeat to all of us to think about the person we talk to in a certain way, the manner they deal with us always makes a strong impression and we act henceforth accordingly. It could be at best a defense mechanism to keep me away from harm, for instance.. But there are times when the impression is one and the vibe in another and we go on the impression and not the vibe, when the vibe is more correct than the impression as the impression is from the heart and the vibe from the mind 😛 😛 It is to keep us on our guard ( i told you before too didn’t I answers we give so often from within us itself), not to take everything for granted. ( if the skill is given to us why not utilize it to the fullest!! why waste such a precious talent!)
So let me make sense of what I just said: The personality (yes here comes the personality bit……. well for all we know we might be passing opinions on somebody just seeing the one teeny weeny side of another’s personality. So maybe being introduced to someone who is has blown off the handle, wouldn’t necessarily mean that (s)he is the bad angry old/ young man types at all. Or does it?
But perceptions are something, which like the conscience are our signs for a healthy, danger free life. We get vibes from others…positive, negative sometimes neutral at others times mixed even without uttering a single word. Now if the moon can cause tides on earth from so far a distance, why not think about a man to man attraction that attracts and repels like the north and south poles of a magnet. Well come to think of it every theory and law in science could be applied to our emotional life to, though all the theories are based on us the specimens at one or the other time.
It is not about being quiet or sitting in a corner doing our own work or mingling with people with enthusiasm. Vibes and impressions are like touch.. when somebody touches us most of us know what that touch signifies.. well..
But the whole thingy about opinions and first impressions come up seriously when others have judged us wrong, maybe what we aren’t all the time or any time…..
Now the ball is in your court…shoot!!!